Dealing with Your Imposter Syndrome

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Hi, everyone, and welcome to today’s webinar, Dealing with Your Imposter Syndrome hosted by HRDQ-U. And presented by Steve Brookes and Serena Ittoo.
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And now I’d like to give a big welcome to our presenters that Steve Brookes and Serena Ittoo.
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Thank you very much, Sarah. So my name is Steve Books, and a very warm welcome to this webinar about How to Deal with Imposter Syndrome in your life and career.
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As Sarah alluded to, I work with my fantastic business partner, Serena Ittoo, to help corporate professionals, overwhelmed with feelings of anxiety, self doubt, and stress, to eliminate the root cause, holding them back, enabling them to live the life they truly love. We support this transformation by providing the tools needed to help them work through the emotions and develop look solid confidence in who they authentically are. A service that we’re both master practitioners of neuro linguistic programming, known as NLP, and through our business expressing your authentic self, we specialize in all areas related to anxiety, self-confidence, and self-esteem. And we guide our clients to embrace, explore, and be excited to show who they are with confidence. Basically, to do this, we use a proven system to help clients firstly, eliminate the root cause, tickets behind that higher levels of anxiety.
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Secondly, we work with people, so they work food that emotions and never have another blow up at home or work afterwards, and we work with people to embed and develop look fairly confident so that they can move forward more, effortlessly, and live a life love.
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So I have a personal history with Imposter Syndrome. As I’m sure many of you do in this talk And webinar will go through an approach to deal with feelings of imposter syndrome, to stop it in its tracks and get better at being comfortably uncomfortable in new situations when these feelings of imposter syndrome come up. So I just now like to introduce my business partner, Serena, who will share a bit more about her own Imposter Syndrome story.
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Hello, everyone. I hope you all will stay. Just to clarify, Cynthia, yes, this will be recorded. So everyone could watch it if they have to go in or anything like that. But, yes. Thank you so much for joining us today. So imposter syndrome.
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It really is universal, in my opinion.
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So I’m a strong believer that we all fall victim to imposter syndrome in different periods of our life.
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And sometimes we believe in opt outs and insecurities about also.
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I have definitely been there. So I am really passionate about teaching that you are not alone, and that, yes, she can overcome this, too.
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To me, especially grown up in school. I felt imposter syndrome all the time. And this was built on the fear of judgement of other peers, and just the fear of fitting in.
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I found that the more I was worried about being accepted by other people, my tears, the more anxious I became, and this actually led to a vicious cycle of me just feeling low self-esteem. And just actually ignoring all of my wanna watch beats.
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The power of influencer fit in that you have to be an act in a certain way, to feel accepted, is actually saw such a dark concept, when you break it down. In a way, this mindset kind of locks you of your childhood because when you think about it when you’re younger, you’re Fermi, hopefully they come from a good family background. They love you and as a child, that’s what we’re told.
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So this is enough, you feel confident, you feel free, and ultimately, that’s why you’re happy that innocence, though, fades when you grow older, because you’re surrounded by all the energies and just different things going on, And to be fair, this is all part of spiritual growth and your own transformation journey.
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It’s amazing how impostor Syndrome can actually be So powerful that highs, why? all of the wonderful things about you?
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It’s so important that you, yourself, recognize your own worth, because it’s so unique, and this alone counts for so much more.
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I did find that as I grew older and let’s stand on my own two feet, I have developed so much more confidence and that was because I realized being authentic to myself so much falvey that no one can take away from me.
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Once I learnt to find that inner peace will then learn to love myself for who I am without fear, of what other people thought.
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That was the more happier and more fulfilled that I’ve come and I found that more opportunities align to you because you have that high vibrational energy within you and this will continue and continue to be allotted to my spiritual growth journey.
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So my own struggles reminds me so much of this quote that we have here by Kate Winslet.
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Kate Winslet who is an academy, award winning actress is reported to said, I’d wake up in the morning before go into a shoot and think I can’t do this unfold.
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So maybe you live with that nagging feeling of being found out because you believe you believe you’re not smart enough you believe you’re not talented enough. You don’t have that experience. I wonder if any of you felt like that because, I know I did as a singer and that’s someone who performs on stage and everything, and I felt like that.
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So we’re gonna go on to on our first poll for today, which so we’ll talk about key.
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Great. So we have the poll launched. It’s a yes or no question let us know. Have you ever experienced feelings of imposter syndrome or game? Yeah?
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A few seconds here to submit your answer and then we’ll get those results up on the screen.
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I see the results streaming in here. We will give you 10 more seconds to do so.
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OK, great, let’s get the results that we have 97% of people joining us today saying yes, they have experienced feelings of imposter syndrome.
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Yes. Thank you, everyone for participating in that poll and To declare imposters in the affects everyone in any walk of life, at any age and gender. So, going into the background now, what is imposter syndrome?
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While it’s a phenomenon where individuals’ doubt that accomplishment and progress, instead, you feel like a phony, you feel as though, at any moment, djokovic to be found out as a thought, like you don’t belong why you all. And you’ve only got less food, dumb luck. Now, these feelings are fueled by self doubt, and fears, and feelings of woody concern being scared of not being enough, things like this.
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And, as I said, it can affect anyone, no matter their social status, what background skill level, or degree of expertise.
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On the term that were first used by psychologists, Susanna …, Pauline most, clamped from the 19 seventies. They use this term.
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and this was when the concept of imposter syndrome was relatively new. And when it was introduced, it was originally thought to apply mostly to high achieving women. Since then, of course, it’s been recognized as more widely experienced, affecting.
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So many authors and imposter syndrome is more common than you think.
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We often fear that we are the only ones experiencing self doubt, but you would be surprised at how many other people fail the same way.
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According to a clinical research paper published in the Journal of Behavioral Sciences, it’s estimated that 70% of the US. Population has experienced what’s known as Imposter Syndrome.
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And based based on the results of the 2019 Imposter Syndrome research study, there are five core phase that asset divide. Most people have imposter syndrome, behavior, which you may recognize from the revolutionary book, Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill, they’ll also part these basic phase. Now, once you know how to spot these phase. You’re on your way to setting you without free from that’s the conscious self sabotaging effects And the five fears all.
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Fear of failure, Number one, Number two, Fear of success, than busway, fear of criticism, number for fear of rejection, and number five, fear of lack of money, fear of scarcity.
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Now, going on to characteristics that these faiths produce.
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Some of the common signs of Imposter Syndrome, resulting from these fairs include self doubt, an inability to realistically assess your competence and skill level.
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Attribute your success to external factors could possibly be your skill.
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The rating, or putting down your performance.
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Having a fear that you won’t live up to expectations.
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Even sabotaging your own success and stopping to take on board when you’ve done a great job, or setting very challenging goals and feeling disappointed when you fall short.
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So one example is that while for some people Imposter Syndrome can fueled feelings of motivation to achieve, this usually comes at a cost in the form of constant anxiety.
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You might over prepare, or, what much harder than necessary, to make sure that nobody finds out you are flawed.
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And the thing is, this sets up a vicious cycle in which you think that the only reason you survive that presentation, what that you stayed up or not hurting, for example, or you think the only reason you got through that party or family Catholic.
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With that you memorize details about all of the guests so that you would always have ideas for smalltalk.
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And the problem with Imposter syndrome is that the experience of doing well at something does nothing.
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Does nothing to really change your beliefs.
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Even though you might sail through an interview, you might perform a task really well.
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You might talk in front of people and get a good response. You may get great feedback on something.
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the thought still nods in your head, what gives me the right to be here.
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Now the more you accomplish, the more you just feel like a Ford. And the only reason you did well was because of look, and you don’t really belong.
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So as to what Kate Winslet is reported to have said, one of these days, people will realize, I don’t know, as much if they think.
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It says, No, you can’t in tantalize your experience of success, and you don’t really believe it.
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And this makes sense, if you received early feedback, particularly in your childhood, that you are not good at social or performance situations.
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Your core beliefs about yourself are so strong, that they don’t change so easily, even when there is evidence to the contrary.
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Now let me shift gears for a moment now, and give you a bit, about my own story, and how Impostor Syndrome presented itself for me.
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The most of my working life in the corporate energy industry over 15 years.
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I struggle to be heard, I felt underestimated, like, I just didn’t belong. well 15.
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Furthermore, I felt like what I set would be wrong. And I’ll be filed out of the forward as soon as I open my mouth. So anxiety and self doubt rules. I didn’t talk very consciously to myself. And they showed in my outward expression to the world and in my relationships.
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I often held back, can never said anything, and felt that was simply not good enough. But always wrong.
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This really was not the reality.
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And it took me a while to move past it, but I did.
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And I now devote my life to continually learning myself and helping others to face and eliminate their own anxiety to overcome Imposter Syndrome and transform their lives and become the best version of themselves, where they live for each and every day not feeling held back by a feeling of imposter syndrome.
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So imposter syndrome, filofax, even those who appear confident.
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For instance, here with some of the situations, Imposter Syndrome has presented itself for me and Savina, Gloving Company, expressing your authentic self, tweaking those familiar feelings of imposter syndrome, and maybe you can recognize them.
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So we experience feelings of imposter syndrome when we talk about our business with …, particularly family and people, not in its field.
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When presenting our business, to our pace, webinars, public speaking, taking Q and A’s, whenever they see situations come up, feelings of imposter syndrome do come up. The difference is we just manage them much better now and we’ll go into how we do that.
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So these situations brought up a lot of feelings of imposter syndrome and that they are associated around certain beliefs that we thought about ourselves.
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And these beliefs of things like not feeling good enough.
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Not having enough knowledge, Feeling like a thought will be found out. one day people will realize, we don’t know anything, and this really is not the reality.
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And it goes back to our beliefs that have been formed.
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So for listening to the background, and we will now go on to our next poll question, Sarah. Thanks.
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All right. We have the next poll up.
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So if you take a few minutes here to answer the question, which of the characteristics of imposter syndrome and do identify with the most and select any of that are relevant to you.
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So, please select one or more of the following. We will give you again sometime here to answer, before we get up on the screen, to discuss.
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And the results are streaming. And, again, we’ll give you 10 more seconds before we share the results on the screen.
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OK, great, Let’s get those up. Oh, it looks like we have an overwhelming. 88% say self doubt.
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Going down to 41% and inability to assess your competence and skills, 32% sabotaging your own success, 29%, setting tough polls and feeling. Let down when you fall short and 26% attributing your success it to external factors.
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Self doubt really is huge animal supplies as the highest percentage of them.
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Well, previously for me, I would have just ran away and I blamed myself, just play the victim to kind of justify Just not stepping out of my comfort zone and that is Bruce for an honest truth.
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But what I’ve learned, though, is, it does not matter how common imposter syndrome is in your life or how frequently you might feel it. Whether you actually let the fear stop you from taking action to reach your goals. And I’ve learnt stop there. It requires internal in work, breaking down those mental and emotional barriers, those limiting beliefs that hold you back.
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Moreover, it’s about working through those mental and emotional blocks to break down these limiting beliefs. And I’ll share with you something that helped me and a set of principles I learnt, and I’ve started to embrace. So number one, all learning and change is uncomfortable.
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So get used to being constantly uncomfortable because that’s the only way that you’re going to grow and learn. Number two, your belief systems, create your reality. So be aware and have the awareness of any belief systems which may be holding you back, and just recognize the signs.
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Number three, your speed does not matter. It’s important to recognize that forward is forward, and you have to be conscious of it.
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Number four, aim for growth, not perfection. We need to let go perfectionism, because making mistakes is OK and you’re probably used to hearing it but it’s a huge part of the process.
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Number five, success leaves clues, so surround yourself with mentors and like-minded people.
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Number six, everything is relative, and that means to own growth in your own pace. Don’t compare yourself to others is not about how well others are doing. Check your own successes and celebrate them as you build momentum towards achieving your goals.
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So moving on, we’re now going to continue a bit more into our belief systems, which rarely do independent drive can drive feelings of imposter syndrome.
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For example, when you’re feeling not good enough that you’ll be found out as a Ford, et cetera, these all come from limiting or negative beliefs.
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And a couple of points here, kind of like quotes, which I find quite powerful.
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So just share. So firstly, belief is not something that the mind possesses.
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It is something that possesses that mind.
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And the truth is, once you have a belief system, everything that comes in either gets ignored if it doesn’t fit the belief system or gets distorted enough so that it can fit into the belief system.
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And you need to be continually revising how you view your life and possibilities because changing your belief is very hard work and very, very powerful because I held unconsciously in Hindi conscious or Subconscious Mind. So I just shared a story now of a shock to really emphasize this point.
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So, … research experiment, a marine biologist place to shop into a large holding, and then release several small, bite fashion to the tank.
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As you would expect, the shark quickly swarm around the tank atop tonight the smaller fish.
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The movie biologist then inserted a strong piece of Claire fiberglass into the tank, creating two separate partitions.
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The biologists then put the shark on one side of the fiberglass and a new set of bait fish on the other. Again, the shock quickly talked.
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This time, however, the shark slammed into the fiberglass divide and stuff, undeterred, the sharp kept repeating this behavior every few minutes to no avail things and kept coupling.
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Meanwhile, the bait fish swim around unharmed and the second partition and eventually about about an hour into the experiment the shark gave up.
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Now, this experiment with repeated several dozen times over the next few weeks, each time the shark got less aggressive and made few attempts to attack the bait fish until eventually the shark got tired of hitting the fiberglass divider and simply stopped attacking altogether.
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Now, the Marine, then, the marine biologists removed the fiberglass divider but the shop didn’t talk.
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The shark was trained to believe that Bobby existed between it and the bait fish, so the bait fish swam, wherever they wished free from harm. And the moral of this story is many of us, after experiencing setbacks and failures, emotionally give up and stopped flying.
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Like the shock in the story, we can tell ourselves we cannot do something or we will always fail because we were unsuccessful in the past.
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In other words, the shark ignore the reality of the body and not being that to maintain its belief that it could not eat the smaller fish.
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Yet no veiled Bobby existed anymore.
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It was just the belief that was holding the shot up literally and metaphorically. And this does not have to be the case.
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So when it comes to challenging ourselves to break out of our comfort zone and in situations and trials, most of the time, it is our own fear, which stops us from try new things. However, I was too clever acronym, which emphasize how our fears. doodle actually reset net present reality.
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So, F is for fear, evidence is the E A is for appearing and ah is for real, and my music teacher told me this, because I had a lot of anxiety over performing and my music class. And I was, I was ready kind of fearing that I was gonna go wrong and I was going to sound awful. And again, judgement of what other things in case I sandwich that matter in fact, done anything. So it wasn’t the reality.
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It was my theme, which is creating that site links, But belief systems, and having to be careful about What kind of belief you have before you can take action. It’s no male, female. She’s holding us back.
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So the missing link to confidence, so Breaking down and change my belief, or your belief systems, take some time. However, it is absolutely achievable.
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We believe there is a missing link required to guide and support you in this, as you break down and getting them to beliefs to fill the fear.
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So you feel it, and you just do it anyway, you take action, seeing the unseen, this missing link can be compared to tree.
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With a tree, It requires strong foundations and roots to enable enable its latent growth and to maximize its potential.
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And this same principle is true for people to if a tree does not develop those strong unseen foundations, it will more likely be blown over, struggled to sustain its life when it eventually grows or faces the elements. And it’s very much like humans take an action to face our fears.
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So this is emphasized no better than the saying when the roots deep. there is no reason to fear wind.
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So without the strong foundations and developments of those various unseen elements within us, achieving your goal, any positive lasting change, intangible direction in life is a lot more challenging.
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This will undoubtedly be shown in your actions, your health, physical impacts, and successes in life. It can also be presented in our relationships job, or any anything you do, really.
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So accessing this missing link starts with having that self awareness of the situations in which you are struggling to express yourself competently.
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The trick is to identify those unseen foundations, such as your emotions, so, for example, self-esteem and self worth, trust, and your abilities, and courage. Things like that, which you need to be worked on the most in those situations.
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It’s about what we can’t see. It seeing the unseen and how you get to see the unseen. It’s through self-awareness.
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So, without the strong foundations to development or roots of various unseen elements, shes competence, having the mental and emotional resilience to face Imposture syndrome and fears in order to take action and achieve your goals in life. It’s a lot more challenging.
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I’ve learned that being aware of and developing these unseen elements is essential to accessing the resources you need in order to break down your limiting beliefs. And in order to take action and move forwards. It’s an approach that builds your mental and emotional resilience, is resilience challenges, and facing the fear and audits powerfully move forward in your life and your spiritual journey.
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For example, if you think to yourself, can you imagine anything else so important, for example, your self-esteem and confidence, which attribute to happiness success in every area of your life when you think about it, happiness and success? It links to those things. Self-confidence, you all links to each other to kind of gets in the outfit said. She saw she served up, and I’ll leave you a quote from Mark Twain. He famously said, A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.
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So, I’ll now shall approach to dealing with Imposter Syndrome and, to start with, it’s essential to a key, to continue to adopt the five key principles into your daily practice.
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The five key principles: Sabina Kanzi shared.
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So, by adopting these five key principles every day, UI embracing your own spiritual journey, clicking down and changing your belief systems, developing your mental and emotional resilience as you move forward at your own pace. I’ll now go through each of these before we apply this approach to one of your own Imposter Syndrome experiences through some techniques and this will be your takeaway from this webinar.
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The great news is there are many tools and techniques available to help you support yourself as you build your resilience and break down mental and emotional barriers at your own pace. And this allows you to manage the emotions that come up when you’re facing these feelings of imposter syndrome.
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In effect, this helps you to build these muscles and these unseen foundations until you are strong enough to move forward and to face your face.
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At the center of this approach, is embracing your spiritual journey.
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If you’d like the first pillar, your spiritual journey, and I’ll now go into this a little more, So by living it, by living an impostor syndrome, you will not live your purpose.
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I know it’s scary to deal with your face and the feelings generated and triggered by imposter syndrome.
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Yet, by dealing with these emotions and developing your mental and emotional resilience, by exercising these muscles, and developing UNC and foundations, you can deal with imposter syndrome more easily.
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And that allows you to take action, to move forward and work towards achieving your real purpose.
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And I believe all approach gives you the mental grounding, the strength and foundations to deal with uncertainty and conquer your fears.
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Step out of your comfort zone and into your power to do what you’re born to do.
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And follow your purpose.
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That is, to share your gift with the world, going outside of yourself, and contributing to something greater than yourself, connecting to the universe, and embracing the universal law as part of your own spiritual journey.
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So a big part of this is to be in a position to feel the fear and take action anyway, having behind you, those strong foundations to manage your emotions, as you take the actual physical actions to move you forward.
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Really dealing with imposter syndrome and delivering is a key part of anything, any part of, like the learning process for you to achieving your goals.
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So take an action can be something like going to that challenge, an interview. Learning to drive the call for the first time, or just putting herself out there, whether that’s taken up a new skill or whatever.
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So, A couple of sets, I remind myself and recommend when take an action include: keep taking baby, manageable steps. So you don’t get overwhelmed.
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So, the important thing here is to remember that speed, again, does not matter forward, It’s forward and it’s, it’s all relative to your own journey, focus on your own individual progress and not on the other, on other people’s chieftains. And this links to Christy, they get to what Christy said, fake it till you make it. Remember, you’re learning a new skill, So it’s a learning experience, like, we’re learning Java call, at the beginning, you don’t really know what you’re doing. That there’s so many different this to learn. And then, with the practice and the resilience, it all comes together with hard work and determination. And again, that’s relative to how fast you can pick up and things. So instead of considering this as like winging it, as preview inadequacies, learn to do what many other successful people do and view it as necessary skill in order to get on and move forward. I actually remember watching the video by Brendan Burchett once and he shared that, he had to fake it to he made it, and now he’s actually an international author, online marketing guru, and a motivational speaker say, That was his mindset.
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Also remember, as Winston Churchill famously said, success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts.
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It’s important that you celebrate those small wins.
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However, small, taking consistent action. Just keep pushing harder because with those small wins, encourages you to go further in life and to push harder and achieve an even bigger goals, particularly when taking regular, consistent action. It all adds up.
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And when you think you’ll never succeed, particularly when you’re hitting that wall, just keep going, even push harder is when, like, this is the point where it gets really hard, that’s when other people just give up, They stay in that room, safe comfort zone. But this is where the mental resilience and the mindset can make all the difference in turn you say to yourself that you’re not going to stay the same as other people And just give up here, as Wayne Dyer said, it’s never crowded along the extra mile, so keep going.
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So it’s, actually, and that’s how we’ve looked at, two of the four pillars looked at your spiritual journey, pillar one and the second pillar, taking action.
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Now, we’ll look at the third pillar, which is allowing the mental and emotional aspects that you have to break down, breaking down your limiting beliefs, basically. So this helps you to get to a place where you can feel the fear and take action.
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And it’s so important to do the inner mental work to stop mentally and emotionally breaking down any limiting belief or beliefs.
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This will exercise your self reflection muscles and help you to start identifying the specific limiting beliefs that are holding you back. Now you could do this. You could start this by channeling, writing down your thoughts and feelings, around imposter syndrome and certain situations before really asking yourself some hard, inner self reflective questions. And specific, narrow down questions may include things such as the following.
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What core beliefs do I hold about myself?
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Do I believe I am worthy of love as I am?
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Or must be perfect for us, it’s to approve of.
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That’s an example.
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They sort of narrow down questions. Now, usually, what is holding you back is emotional.
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If it’s not emotionally, won’t hold you back.
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So it’s important to realize you are not your emotions and move beyond this, otherwise, your emotions brought up in imposter syndrome, will contain, will continue to limit your choices and decisions. And there are many tools and techniques to help you deal with your emotions about the specific issue identified that is holding you back.
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Now, I find it really useful to use grounding techniques, tools to calm these emotions down, because this really helps me to get through the fair when taking the action.
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For example, for me, daily meditations, such with such such as loving kindness and on a panel, meditations of very useful in this way. As is another view of a linguistic programming NLP branding exercise called one Point, which I’ll guide you through shortly. When I’ll show you how to apply, the technique to your own experience, posters info.
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Now, I think, I think of grounding as that feeling when you’re really quite calm, no matter what is going on around you.
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Very similar to when you connect and spend time in nature, this grounding, effect and feeling as I’m sure many of you can relate to.
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So I also recommend using some additional tools to not only loosen the emotions brought up around imposter syndrome.
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but also to start to change your perspective and the way you think.
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So as you are aware, from the earliest shock metaphor, limiting beliefs often do not represent the reality or the facts.
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one example is, when we make a mistake or fail, something new, rather than believe, this is the end of the world, and not the …, we can realize our mistakes and failures are the stepping stones to close and self discovery.
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These are actually what build the foundations to success and achievement, and once we know this, you can begin to change your perspective, and stop those same emotions coming back and let go.
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Now, comparing yourself to others can be inspiring, yet also harmful. Swanky tip will also share it surely is how to stop unfavorable comparisons and compare yourself effectively. And this will help you to change your perspective a little bit, and stop using others as your measuring stick, because this will actually just lead to feelings of low self-confidence and self worth.
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Said the technique called, it’s called Razzie, so all ASI.
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And so how this technique works is you firstly, remember a time when you have compared yourself really unfavorably with someone else or others. So all is for reframe.
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Once you have that in mind, you then reframe your comparison experience by asking questions, such as: Is this true all of the time?
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What is the message behind the emotion, I’m feeling?
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Is there anything your mind is trying to alert you to?
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And also, is there anything you can learn from the situation?
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The next one’s a achievement. You then write down one thing you have done well and achieved in this area when comparing the past till now.
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Then the next one, at strength, you then lock down one strength, Ubuntu and shared in this area, and then I improvement you write down one way, you can get better in this experience.
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So my example of an ineffective comparison experience was when I was delivering the presentation in the corporate environment, and it really was not doing very well. And I started to compare myself more than more unfavorably with the other people in the blue, which made it worse. And I mumbled my way to the end of the presentation feeling very often inadequate. I believed in that moment everyone was ignoring and not listening to me.
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I wasn’t very good, didn’t have a May. People maybe didn’t like you may either and I just thought of doing a terrible job at. So, by applying this technique that so you know outlined.
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I realized, firstly, not everyone in the room actually disliked me or my presentation the structure of my presentations, with Java, I didn’t panic or refer to my notes, nearly as much as I previously did.
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And I actually engage with be engaged with people, even making them laugh.
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And when I look back, and when I got some feedback, this is what, this is what came out. But in the moment, that was not what I was thinking. But the reality is quite different.
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I realized my mind, well, it’s actually trying to alert me to things that might go wrong in the meeting, as well, just to make sure I’m well prepared.
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And I realize I can also learn a lot from certain people, and improve my presentations, even more, such as not to go into quite as much detail.
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So this is all we flaming my mind than the reality of what actually happened in a much how feel.
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Wait. Because the important thing is to focus on your progress, not other people’s achievements as well. When you focus on yourself, this is something you can control and change in the long run. This makes you feel better about yourself, particularly as you build up those small wins, which consistently encourage you to go further in life, push harder, and achieve bigger goals.
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Now, once you start to manage your emotions, you begin to have a clear mind, and it becomes easier to think, and have other more helpful thoughts. When we change what we think, it interrupts the old thinking pattern and our brains like to learn very quickly. And with that, you can start to fill the gap with new, creative, and productive thoughts.
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When you think of better, more helpful, thoughts, I think, in on purpose, you could actually create new, new cortical pathways. And the more you do this, the more you reinforce and strengthen this thinking.
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This can be called thinking on purpose, like I said. And is the science actually behind neuro linguistic programming and OT?
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And the truth is, the more you think with this, you find better ways to actually handle things. Come up with better solutions and become more focused and confident taking decisions.
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Expressing yourself and what you want in life will surely share another exercise we refer to as a confident you where you begin to get sense of place to expand your thinking and X And imagine you imposter syndrome, situation, gardening, exactly the way you want.
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Before that, onto our final poll, please.
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Great, so the poll is now live. You can take some time here again, select any one or more of the following. Of which of the four elements or pillars do you feel you need to work on most, and then we’ll give you some time here to answer those and get those up on the screen to discuss.
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And I see responses streaming, and again, will give you again another NaN here to submit your answer, if you haven’t done so.
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OK, great!
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Let’s see. So we have 62% of people saying immense all, 50% saying Emotional, 47% saying, take an action and 17% saying spiritual.
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OK, thank you very much, everyone, for participating there.
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So now, I’m, let’s, let’s apply this approach to you, and this would be your three step takeaway and I’ll just Play a video now.
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I’d just like you to think of a situational person that triggers those feelings of imposter syndrome.
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Firstly, just take a minute to self reflect and ask yourself a couple of questions about what’s really holding you back. You may already know what belief is holding you back, either way, you might want to ask yourself some of these questions, and just take a minute to do so now.
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What core beliefs about myself, do I believe I’m worthy of love as I am? I must have the perfect Francisco improvement.
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OK, so just keep hold of those thoughts, before you apply them to the techniques.
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I’d just like to, say, for the duration of these techniques, about 10 minutes.
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I’ll just ask you to now stand up straight with your feet, shoulder width apart, looking straight ahead.
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So stand up straight with your feet, shoulder width apart from looking straight ahead for the duration of these techniques.
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OK, now I’ll play the techniques one after another, and just listen and apply them to whatever you believe is, holding you back the limiting belief or whatever, and then the way you want it to go.
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OK, Great, Let’s now go into the technique.
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Just close your eyes and stand-up light with your feet, Shoulder width apart, and I’d like you to think for a short time about the difficult situation.
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Well, you can’t get the thoughts out of your head.
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See here and feel yourself in a situation?
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You may notice that you have less balance and feel wobbly Oh a little uneasy on your feet.
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Give the situation of 18 from 0 to 10, with 10 being worse than zero. The situation is not affecting you at all.
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I remember this waiting, now I’d like you to just slowly movil attention from your head to vote.
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Be aware of as you move the feeling to a chest downcast.
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Finally, concentrate on a point about 2 to 3 inches below your navel while your belt would be.
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Notice a heavy weight tuck feeling like a complete block, sack of potatoes or anchor whatever works for you.
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As you simply concentrate and settle this feeling down into your tummy now, that’s right.
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Notice your thoughts becoming much quieter, as you look at yourself from a distance.
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In the same challenging situation.
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You may notice you now feel solid and more secure on your feet, particularly when someone gently pushes your shoulder.
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Now, think of something else.
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Maybe what you had for breakfast or lunch today, what you enjoyed about it.
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I’d like you to just think of that difficult situation, again, And now give it the rating from 0 to 10, with 10 being the worst xaver, where the situation is not affecting you at all.
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I’m guessing your school is somewhat lower.
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If you want your score to go even lower, closer to zero, access one point again, in the same way, going from your head, all the way down to feeling the weight, down into your tummy, while you let any disruptive thoughts just pass away.
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And also remember, a time when you really giggled and laughed at something.
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That’s right.
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To think of that moment.
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Wow.
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Think of that difficult situation again.
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And give it a lighting from 0 to 10, and I’m guessing it will be an even lower score this time.
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Now, accessible, important, again, in the same way, and feel the light down into your tummy area, Whatever that weight is, peeling book, salida Unsecure, and your feet.
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Now, in your mind’s eye, picture yourself from a cluster.
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Looking at yourself, handling the same situation.
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Fear the situation, always going the way you want it to go.
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Yeah. You want to get a couple of different ways if you wish.
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Fear self handling the situation easily, effortlessly and gracefully, staying in control and relaxed in one point all the time.
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Notice how you feel now, and give it a new lighting between 10 and 0, and hopefully this will not be a one-off.
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Now I’m going to share, it’ll technique which you can do to just help reset your comparison compass.
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Just remember a time when you have compared yourself really unfavorably with someone else than others.
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First, reframe your comparison experience by asking yourself questions, such as, Is this true all of the time?
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What is the message behind the emotion you’re feeling?
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If at anything your mind is trying to alert you to?
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Is there anything you can learn from the situation?
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Just spend a moment coming up with some answers to these questions.
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Next, write down one thing you have done well, and achieved in this area when comparing the past now.
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So, just just to remember and think of one thing you’ve done well, this can pass an expense.
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Then we call in my down one strength. You have thought to and shared in this area.
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So, just the number one strengths, good thing. He bought this situation, this comparison.
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Finally, think and write down one way you can get better in this area, and learn from this experience.
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Moment, finally, write down the way you could improve on this comparison expense.
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So, after you have used this technique, notice how you feel about your comparison. Indeed, check in with your body, and it changes to your energy levels.
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Tapping into them, confident you.
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Now, take a moment to step forward into the conference.
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Just make sure you’re standing up straight and at the same time, hold your head and chin high, in an upright, comfortable, relaxed position on your shoulders. That’s right.
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And let your spine support you.
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Imagining a golden thread, running vertically up through your spine, up through your head, straight, up all the way into the sky.
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Field effect supporting you, lady smiling, as you let yourself relax, safely and effortlessly. Hello, by this Golden thread.
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Know, this posture and stance is a natural position of confidence. And it will soon be as natural to you as bleeding.
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Activate your confidence switch.
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Now, just take a step forward and think of the Imposter Syndrome situation going exactly, the way you want to go and you taking action so confidently.
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Fully return to it now, fully, be in that moment. See what you see, here, what you, Hey, I really feel how good you feel, right?
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Turn up your confidence switch.
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Now, make the colors, which sounds loud and stronger.
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The feeling is more and more intense.
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Notice that feeling of confidence is strongest. Nobody gives this feeling of confidence occur.
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Make a color to the top of your head and go all the way down to the tips of your toes, like an expanding blanket, becoming more and more intense, as you’ve doubled the blindness, double the skin.
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And as you feel better, better about these good feelings, … yourself.
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This could be squeezing the thumb and middle finger of either hand together.
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Squeezing titley one of your big toes. Have barely, noticeable signal that only you know, and it’s about whatever works for you.
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To fully go into this feeling in your body, as you increase the volume on any sounds, and your own voice, and notice this feeling of total confidence and inner calm, expanding outputs to every cell in your body, faster and faster, the sound. Louder and stronger, the range of colors apply to individual. Keep squeezing your big toe feeling amazing. Handling the situation with, ease and confidence. The confidence calm and wonderful feeling for a few moments.
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OK, great, well done, well done.
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You can sit by them.
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OK, think, we’ll come back a little.
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And.
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So some fun thoughts is a powerful quote from Benjamin Spock that I cherish, because the more you build that strength and resilience to face your fears, take action and move forward to where you want to be, the more you realize these words, so true. And all the reality.
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So, trust yourself, You know more than you think you do.
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Our call to action is to recommend you make a decision today that enough is enough, and that you’re going to change a few things. Or maybe you decide to stop your version of the syndrome altogether. And it’s OK to do that if you want to.
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Indeed, when stepping out of your comfort zone and facing those feelings of imposter syndrome, remember to keep in mind that to be completely authentic, make a commitment to yourself. To be honest. And keep in mind, you are doing your best with what you know.
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This should help mitigate any feelings of not being or knowing enough.
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Well, feeling you have to be an expert, because when you do things with an open heart, people will connect with you, and you can fully embrace opportunities.
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The Truth is dealing with Imposter syndrome in your life is a key part of realizing, the achieving your potential.
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And the key, very key part of that is learning to be comfortably uncomfortable, to grow and get the life you want. So, feel free to use any of the techniques shared during this webinar.
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Embrace your spiritual journey, and we wish you all the very best becoming the best version of yourself, in the key areas of your life, so that we can know what together. Be collectively, a source of positive influence for humanity on the world.
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So, my mission is to help cope a professional with, Eliminate their anxiety. In six weeks.
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So, urm, thank you for joining and participating in this webinar.
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We’ll be delighted to help you with further coaching questions on composter syndrome, and I think, Sarah, you’ve just shared the link to book a free clarity call in the chat, haven’t you?
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Yes, I sent over that link. You can click that link there to set up, some time to connect with Steven and Serena.
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And, while you’re typing in your questions, that you had some, some comments come through during the exercise, for any of those that were unable to watch the video, you can watch the exercise, you can tune back to the recording there. And we had a comment come through from Christy who said, How’s this for you? This exercise made such a difference that I assumed I must be doing it incorrectly? LOL.
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Hmm, and we had another comment come through from Kelly who said, this technique reminds me of the concept of belly breathing, which is a common way to breathe – very interesting.
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Let’s see here. We had a question come through from Sonia you know, how how can I overcome feelings that I don’t know what I’m doing?
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Would you like to take that Serena? I see its hard to overcome the feeling that you don’t know what you’re doing.
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I think, first of all, it would be to have the awareness on more on your belief system of till why you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing. Is it, is it to do with having a lack of awareness of a lack of skill on something, or is that just the belief that you have?
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And I would say, and maybe write down reasons as to, if it depends really, what would you say, Steve?
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Yeah, I think it comes back to exercising the self reflection and asking yourself some specific questions To identify what the belief is that is holding you back. So, what are you telling yourself? Basically, the voice in your head will have a voice in your head. What are You saying to yourself that gives an indicator of what the, what you believe about yourself, and what is holding you back? So, once you’ve identified that, you can then start working on it to some of the techniques we shared, and you can kind of change the way you think about that belief.
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You can also work with us to kind of eliminate that belief and replace it with a much healthier, use a technique, smooth actions towards whatever you’re trying to achieve.
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Great, and with the there, that does bring us up to the end of our session today. Today’s webinar was sponsored by Expressing your Authentic Self. You can check them out and expressingyourauthenticself.com as well as HRDQstore.com. And make sure that you click that link. Connect with them. Use code “TRANSFORM” to save as discounts over there and connect with Stephen and Serena.
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And with that, Stephen, Serina – thank you so much for such an informative and really engaging webinar today. We really appreciate your time.
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Much.
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And thank you all, for participating in today’s webinar, Happy training!