Discovering and Standing in your Authentic Voice

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Hi, Everyone, and welcome to today’s webinar, Discovering and Standing in Your Authentic Voice, hosted by HRDQ-U and presented by Jennifer Dohr.
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My name is Sarah, and I will moderate today’s webinar. The webinar will last around one hour. If you have any questions or comments, please type them into the question area on your GoToWebinar control panel, and we’ll answer as many as we can during today’s session.
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I’m excited to introduce our presenter today, Jennifer Dohr. Jennifer is an award winning educator who left the classroom in 20 22 to found authentic voice drawing in 25 years. The high school English to English teacher, she now, guys, adults on the journey acknowledging the unique life experiences so that they can afford authentic relationships with herself and others. She is unconditionally committed to individual growth, personally and professionally as each of us answers. the question. What’s my story? Jennifer facilitates an extraordinary experience and incorporates poetry. And her work has the best way to access deeper levels of discourse and self-awareness. Some of Jennifer’s most touching stories from the classroom are featured in time to teach time. To reach expert. Teachers give voice to the power of a relational teaching by …, she earned her Bachelor’s degree in English and creative writing from Allegheny College, a master’s degree in education from Leslie College.
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Thank you so much for joining us today, Jennifer, and we can see where everybody’s coming in over there, and that questions box, if you can pick that up for me. Jennifer?
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Terrific, Sarah, thank you for having me, special thanks to HRDQ. You as well.
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Welcome everybody.
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It looks like we’ve got folks coming in from throughout the states, Lorena, North Carolina, Canada, our neighbor to the North.
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So, thank you, thank you for being here. We’re in, for a terrific hour together.
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I figured out one thing, teaching thousands of kids.
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Your authenticity comes down to knowing your stories and the only way to know them is to write them down with a guide.
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Can you trust who shows you a process that’s not scary?
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And once you’re authentic, you’re unstoppable full stop.
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Then I figured out one more thing, which is that adults need a guide to, maybe, even more so than kids.
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I think it’s also tired of not being authentic at work, and so, I made it my mission: to be that guide that you need.
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And you’re joining today, you might be wondering whether you need the tools that I’m going to share with you today, whether you need that guide.
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You’re here, You’re going to test drive them, So get ready for one heck of a ride.
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The tools work, they always work.
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I’m going to show you two points today.
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And I’m going to show you three steps. Make two points.
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I showed you three steps.
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You are going to need some supplies for today.
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Because the thing about accessing your authentic voice through your stories is that you can’t just think about it, You’ve got to write them down. So I’m going to ask you to grab a pen.
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Any old pan, Mozu, highlighter, and any kind of a notebook pad of paper, or even some loose leaf pages, all of that is just fine.
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So I’m giving you a minute to gather those surprise supplies.
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I’m going to ask you a question.
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Who is the most authentic person you know?
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Want you to think about that person, maybe their relationship to you.
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Even write it down. If you want. That can be the first thing you write down on that paper you just gathered.
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And I’d ask you to hold onto that person’s name.
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At the end of the hour, I think you’ll have some additional place insights into that person, and their authenticity through the work that we do together.
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So here’s my premise for today, I think you’re here because you probably know that authenticity is the word of the day.
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It’s the movement of the moment, and I’m gonna guess that you’re tired of hearing.
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Be authentic, be real. Be genuine.
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I bet at times, like me, you want to scream?
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I know maybe you’re reading a bunch of the same leadership books that I’m taking a look at and they’re all talking about be authentic and if you’re lucky, some of the books or speeches or Ted talks, we’ll say, the way to get there is by knowing your stories.
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And that’s absolutely true, but it’s not enough. You need the guide. You need the tools.
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So the great news about your authentic voice is that, you don’t have to go find it, you already have it, it’s already present, and it’s waiting for you, and so are the stories that your office authenticity is derived from.
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But we need to mine those stories. And there’s a three step process to do so.
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So before we go on, I do want to ask you, what does authenticity mean to you? Or what is authentic voice me to you? I’m super excited to see what your response will be, so if you can use that same question field that you use to type in where you’re coming in from.
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And shoot me a word or a phrase, a couple of.
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Phrases, whatever you’d like, and I’ll read a couple of those responses aloud anonymously.
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That question field is a one-way route in into me.
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What does authentic voice mean to you?
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OK, fantastic, everything you’re saying is really similar to my definition, I’m saying. Things like, be true to yourself. Be honest.
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Be transparent. Speak your truth.
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The purely real. Think independently.
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Think on the unapologetically, Avoid pretenses.
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Be honest, be transparent. Yes! Yes. Yes, absolutely!
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I want to share with you now, my definition, and thank you, everybody, for typing that in.
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So, here’s what it is to me.
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Authentic voice is unearthing your values, your mindsets, your joys, your frustrations, your motivations, your influences, steppingstones, crucibles, and competencies, and living from them.
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So, we know what it is, we know what we want, but it can feel risky to dig up all of those truths.
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And why is that?
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I think it’s because of something that clear, sort of pink color …
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says, She wrote women who run with the wolves.
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That title means anything to you, incredible thinker, and psychologist and writer.
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And she says that to be ourselves, causes us to be exiled by many others, and yet to comply with what others want. Causes us to be exiled from ourselves.
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Nobody wants to be in exile. Nobody wants to be embarrassed or ashamed.
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We know that whatever we say we reveal ourselves, and so we play it safe.
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And the truth is that hiding and inauthenticity comes much more naturally.
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That’s our comfort zone.
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I was an expert at that for a long time. I’ll tell you straight out, In fact, I had to found authentic voice in order to be my first client.
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So, I think we have two choices, particularly in the work setting, but all that I say today applies to our personal lives and our professional lives were one being. afterall. We can’t separate the two to do that, would be false.
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So, we have these two choices, and I’ll speak particularly to the work experience today, we can behave and comply.
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We can do what others expect of us or we can come together like we are today to talk about how to use our authentic voice, how to uncover it by knowing our stories and we do so through the tools that I’m going to show you today.
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Why do we need some tools?
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As I said, it’s the guide.
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It’s the tools that provides us with that safety, and every step in the authentic voice process, comes from on our thing, your stories, in that safe, really free environment.
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So, we’re gonna get some stories down on the page today, but I want to make something really clear.
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Authentic voice is not a writing workshop, and that’s a question I get all of the time.
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In fact, the less you’ve written, the less you journal. The better off you are in a lot of ways because you, you come to this process with that beginner’s mindset and that’s really valuable.
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What we’re doing is, we’re writing from a motion, not from the head.
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We’re getting our head out of the way with the tools that I’m going to show you today.
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So, we’ve got a couple of objectives in our hour together.
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We’re going to begin that process of uncovering the personal stories that our authenticity is derived from.
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And we’re going to engage in authentic voice exercises and approaches, approaches that empower us to keep that authenticity front and center.
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Before I go any further, So, Sarah, I think this would be a great time to run that poll.
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Yeah, one poll question for you.
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And that is, To what degree do you agree with this statement?
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Misstatement is I consistently bring my authentic self to work.
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I’d love it if you could either strongly agree, agree, disagree, strongly disagree, or maybe you’re not sure.
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You’re uncertain, and that’s fine, too.
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We have some deviation.
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We have some results streaming in here.
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I was gonna say I will give you 15 more seconds here to you, Well, I’ll get this result up on the screen for us. OK, fantastic, And I was just thinking maybe I should have another option as your voting.
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That says, I don’t know if I want to bring my authentic self to work, and that’s an OK place to be as well, right. That’s a really important question to ask yourself.
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And when we think about bringing our full self to the workplace, of course, we’re always thinking about sharing ourselves, and our stories, or values or beliefs at the right time, with the right people.
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With appropriate boundaries in place.
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Yeah, Sarah has my screen, there we go, OK, so it looks like we’ve closed that, yes, is that right?
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You have the results up on the screen now, OK, this is fantastic, so take a look at that.
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So about maybe 60 70 percent of you are saying you agree or strongly agree, that’s fantastic.
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So after today’s presentation you’re gonna be taking that authenticity to a whole new level at work, and then we had about 14% in the disagrees with we add in those strongly disagrees I’m not sure is you know, that’s a solid what, 25, 28% there, you know, that’s not a small number.
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So, let’s see if we can get that number.
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No, even higher.
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I think what we’re seeing in terms of quiet quitting in terms of the great resignation, in terms of people feeling lonely, feeling isolated, particularly at this difficult and volatile time in our history.
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I think we can ameliorate a lot of that. if the place where we spend 8, 10, 12 hours a day, even if that’s at home, working for home.
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The place where we spend, half of our conscious life is a place where we feel that we can be our fault, authentic selves.
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So, we know we need authentic voice now, more than ever so much so, that I left the classroom to do this work, and I had I miss my high school kids so much, but it’s also an incredible joy to start this new chapter and to work with adults.
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So, thank you for that toil Really, really appreciate those answers.
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So, as I said, we’re gonna get out of writing from emotion today and into, sorry, writing get out of writing for my head, right, and right, an emotional place.
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And this is a quote I love that reminds us to do so, it’s by Nancy Islam. Sloan in my rony she wrote, Writing From The Heart, which is a fantastic book.
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I can suggest to you, and all of the quotes you see today are, from people I consider to be my teachers. Every teacher needs a teacher, right?
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So if you ever come across a teacher without a teacher run the other way.
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So Nancy Stoner Moroni says, Writing is not an intellectual pursuit. Your voice is the only voice, like, your take on the world is the only take like it.
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So we’re talking about writing is a route into knowing yourself better. Once you do that, your authenticity stands tall, that’s it.
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This picture, by the way, is a shot from a lake up near Mammoth, called Satya Lake. And this Little Beach you might see the front of your screen. I like to call that Jen Speech. But I guess now I’ve ruined my little secret here, but there’s this little Standi Pat on the back of …
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Lake where I’ve done some of my favorite journaling through the years.
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This is my, my peaceful place here, OK, let’s continue.
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So, what we have to do is free the Storyteller within period.
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And there is one thing I’m going to tell you today, that is absolutely essential if you remember nothing else from this presentation. Here’s what I want you to really focus into.
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There is a magical statement that I’ve used in the classroom for 25 years, 27 years, I think.
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Technically, and it goes like this: I am free to write the worst junk in all the world.
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I’ll read it again. I’m free to write the worst junk in all the world.
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I like to abbreviate that as W J W, I like to say it, as what jaw.
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So, when I work with adults and students, I’m continually asking them to wood jaw it out, right With jaw is. What I need you to do, is give yourself that latitude to write the worst junk in all the world.
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A woman I’m working with currently has been using this word job process to write a whole bunch of material rightly lately, and in the process she remembered on the page her first job as a typist way back in the 19 seventies.
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She, right out of college, was the first one to automate the lease calculation process, with her blue Smith Corona Typewriter as a Temp, and because she wrote that story, through a drawing it out, she, following the steps that I taught her, and I’m going to show you right now, she has regained confidence and clarity.
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And she carries that with her now in her work in marketing she reminded herself through that process of our ability to be of service, and now she’s operating from that sense of knowing who she is, because she wrote the story of being 21, and pulling off this feed.
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She knows how she got to where she is today, and she’s feeling much more authentic now.
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So there are three more sayings I’d love to share with you as well that dovetail with what jaw here they are.
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These come from writing teachers and writers, who are friends, right?
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Where you are, You can take that, literally. You can take that metaphorically as well.
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Wherever you are geographically, personally, emotionally, that’s where you’re writing from.
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Right? What needs to be written?
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So I’m going to give you some prompts today. You might find yourself going off of that prompt, and that is absolutely OK. Absolutely fine.
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In fact, it’s more than fine because you’re going to write what needs to be written.
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The prompts are the root in, if you give yourself that freedom to write the worst junk in all the world today and moving forward, you will write what needs to be written.
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And there’s no right, right? There’s no judgement, there’s no doing it correctly.
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They’re simply what comes out, when you trust the process, and You let it fly.
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So, here we go, we’re gonna jump right in here at 11 18. My time, I’m in Los Angeles, to our first couple different writing exercises today. So, grab that pen and grab your paper. And this first exercise, I like to call, it’s all in the list.
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We all love lists. We make them all the time, they keep us lose, they keep us out of the conscious brain, and remember, that’s what we’re trying to do today.
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We’re trying to bypass that intellectual side, and get into the unconscious brain.
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So here’s the first thing you need to do. I need you to write today’s date at the top of the page.
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That’s January 18th, 2023. We always date and title, all of our writing.
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So, for the title, I’d like you to write, It’s all in the list.
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Super simple.
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And then we’ve got to write that magical statement.
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I am free to write the worst junk in all the world.
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Something profound happens when you give yourself that permission.
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It just works. Alright, so I want you to write it out. No cheating and writing W J W. You’re not there yet. Maybe later, I’ll let you abbreviate it right now. I do need you to write out these 7. 10 words, I am free to write the worst junk in all the world. You can use a marker. You can underline. You can use all caps exclamation points, whatever You want. But you want that front and center right under the date, right under the title.
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All right, here we go.
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So I’m going to give you the topic now, for our first list, and when I say begin, I’m going to ask you to write for NaN, and here’s the trick.
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There’s no lifting the pen. No cross outs, no hesitations, no worries about spelling or grammar punctuation. You’re simply going to keep the pen moving literally, but not lifting it from the page. So I don’t care if you need to scribble and write what is this? I have no idea what I’m doing. This is crazy, doing, doing, doing, Yesterday, I was doing some gardening.
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Doesn’t matter. Just keep that pen moving, because we get out of the conscious brain.
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Not by staring at a white screen, not by staring at a blank piece of paper with some lines on it, but by keeping the pen moving. There’s a lot of really cool research about what happens when the physical pen or pencil isn’t moving. While the brain is thinking, and I’m happy to send that to. If you want that, send that to you if you’d like it, Just let me know. But, in any case, keep that pen moving, and we’re in person in one of my workshops, and, I saw your pen stop moving, I would literally come up behind you, and I would touch the back of your pen. I would keep it moving. That’s how important that is.
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OK, so, here is your first, It’s all molest exercise. I’m going to set my timer here for NaN.
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Things I want to hold on to, So we’re going to add that now, underneath the jaws statement, things I want to hold on to, right. That, adding that to our title. It’s on the list things.
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I want to hold onto NaN on the clock. Don’t let that pen stop moving, right? What needs to be written with jarred out?
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Right, where you are. There’s no right right.
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Here we go and Begin at fun with it, everybody.
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NaN remain.
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NaN.
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And go ahead and finish the list item you’re on right now and put your pens down, please.
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You can always return to this later, whenever you like.
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All righty. Shake it out. Fantastic.
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Maybe it’s been awhile Since you’ve put pen to page, whatever you wrote, whatever you didn’t write, absolutely fine. In fact, I like to say all writing is fine. In fact, it’s more than fine, right?
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Trust comes from keeping that pen moving, and your authentic voice comes from writing your story, so perhaps, you took that question. Literally, write things I want to hold on to this necklace from my father. Perhaps you took it, metaphorically things I want to hold onto.
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Oh, My sense of confidence, right?
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However you took it.
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It’s fantastic Way to go, OK, so we’re going to do this.
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It’s all in the list activity one more time, NaN, same deal we’re on the same page, or if you need to turn to a new page, that’s fine, but we’ve got the date. There. We still have I am free to write the worst junk in all the world right there.
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And we’re going to have a new title though for this one. So you can just draw a line or skip a space. Here comes your new title.
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Things I want to let go of, you’re starting to see a pattern here, right? I’m going to hold onto some things in my life.
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I want to let go of some things in my life.
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Simple, easy, trust it. Keep the pen moving, would jot out no re right?
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Right, what needs to be written?
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There we go, Yup, everybody with me, NaN, already, had fun with it, again.
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NaN remain.
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15?
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All right, let’s stop for an hour. Again, knowing you can return to this list whenever you’d like.
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Well done. Sign more than sign.
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You wrote, what needed to be written? You trusted the process right.
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Awesome.
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So, we’re still, in that first step, were stolen, would join it out, We’ve got a couple more steps to go. I promise, this will all make sense in the end, Just stay with me, Trust your guide, do what I’m asking you to do. I love that you’re playing along. I love that, you’ve got a pen in your hand.
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Don’t overthink it. Just stick with the program and start to notice what’s emerging. That’s it.
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Alright. Ready to keep going, rate intense.
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Here we go.
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So this next exercise that I love is called tell the Story of, same thing with drawing it out.
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So I do need you to write at the top of a new page.
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I am free to write the worst Duncan all the world.
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Or if you can still see the statement from the previous page, if you’re still on that page, that’s OK, Same thing, you know, why not write the date again, Why not write the title?
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Again, tell the story of really great habits to get into the day, the title, the prompt.
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That way, if you ever want to look back at this writing, you’ll see, that’s where I was on January 18th, 2023. That’s what my prompt was. That’s what I was thinking.
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I’ve got boxes full of journals.
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I’ve been doing this kind of writing since I was nine years old, I rarely reread this type of writing.
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Sometimes they burn, and sometimes they throw it away at Donald kinds of things with them, but if you want to reread it, there it is for you with the date, OK.
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So go ahead and write, Tell the story out, I am free to write the worst junk in all the world.
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And January 18th.
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So we’re gonna kick it up a notch by going to a five minute writing exercise.
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And for some of the five minutes, it’s going to feel like forever. And for others of you at the five minute mark, you’re going to wish you had more time. And you can always go back and add yourself more time.
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After the webinar ends, but five minutes is a good chunk of time, it really is.
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So here’s your topic.
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Tell the story of a boss, a teacher, a coach, or a mentor, who has had a profound influence on your life.
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So to shorten that for the title, you can call this one profound influence.
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You’re going to tell the story in five minutes of a teacher boss, coach, mentor.
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Someone in your life who’s had a profound influence on you.
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Trust the process. Keep that pen moving. Pretend I’m standing over you pushing that pan along.
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Remember, authentic voice comes from knowing our stories, but we cannot think about them. So, if you’re out there attempted right now to check your e-mail, or just wait until five minutes goes by, I’m asking you to write what needs to be written to write what you are to trust that. There’s no word, right, right? It’s only five minutes.
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And what can emerge is really phenomenal. So I’m going to set my timer.
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You’ll hear me checking in with you, encouraging you at the three minute mark and one minute mark, and let’s see what comes out.
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Profound influence on your life. Here we go.
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five minutes.
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You’ve got this.
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Begin.
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three minutes, remain. Keep the pen moving. You’ve got this. Just keep on going.
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two minutes, everybody.
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one minute, Challenge yourself to keep that pen moving.
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NaN.
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All righty. Congratulations.
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Put your pen down, you just wrote for five minutes.
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And again, whatever happened, it’s fine. In fact, it’s more than fine.
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Not sure what happened for you, for me. I remember the story of my fifth grade teacher, Mrs. at the key who offered me to be the Crossing Guard at school. And I had just transferred to a new school and I suddenly remembered feeling really proud and special and notice for the first time. And what came up as I just now is that I said no to that orange best. I said, No to becoming the crossing guard.
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So, but that’s a gift to me, right? To remember why I said no, to think about the fact that the offer meant everything. to me.
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Maybe I’ll walk through my day today a little bit differently, interact a little bit differently with those in my home and in work, because I remembered what that offer meant to me.
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And, and that there was someone who saw something really special in that. Yeah, OK.
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So, trust, whatever came out, We’re going to do this again one more, five minute my jaw.
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But, we’ve got a different topic this time. So you can turn to a new page.
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And in this next one, perhaps, some sites or sounds or smell, some sensory details might start to come forth. Maybe some dialog comes forward. Maybe your sense of how you felt in the moment in your feelings then or now.
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Come forth as well.
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Again, whatever is coming forth, roll with it. And if you end up off topic and you’re suddenly writing about your grandmother, or the fact that you’ve gotta get your sons with new soccer Cleats, that’s fine, too, because you’re writing what needs to be written. Right?
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It’s all about trusting the process.
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OK, so we’re going to move onto our next topic.
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Again, it’s a tell the story of prompt.
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And we’re still in Step one, we’re so in that we’re trying it out for you to write the worst junk in all the world.
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So this next topic is want you to tell the story of a time you faced fear in the workplace.
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What’s that story? How did you handle it?
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Did you triumph over it?
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Would you handle it a little differently today? Do you love how you face that moment?
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What’s the story?
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Right?
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So let’s call this one faced Fear as our title Again, getting in those really good habits.
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January 18th facing fear I am free to write the worst junk in all the world if you’re tired of writing that out. Now I will let you abbreviate it.
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What John W J W would draw it out, right? Keep that pen moving, we know our authentic voice comes from our stories.
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And we know we need these tools to access our stories in an unconscious way in a non intellectual way.
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So here we go right? Where it needs to rewritten, Let’s see what comes out super cool topic here. Let’s see if we can tell that story. Many of you are probably at work right now. So you’re in that mode, right?
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Time you face fear, we all face it, right? And courage is facing it.
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Kurt is now not never being afraid. We know that. Thank you, Nelson Mandela, right? What happens when we try to face our fear? That’s courage, right? OK, so, here we go, everybody. You’re with me, five minutes.
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I’ll be checking in as we go. Let’s see what comes out. Great work, everybody. Here we go.
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We’ve got this.
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We’re about at the halfway point, 2.5 minutes.
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Keep on going. You’re doing great.
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Minute and a half to go. Keep that pen moving!
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NaN.
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Oh.
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15?
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Go ahead and finish the thought you’re on now.
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Bring that sentence to a close, for now.
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And hands down, shake it out, everybody, maybe give your risks are good shake.
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Great job, you are beginning to experience, I hope that freedom through drawing it out.
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You are mining your stories to uncover your real voice, and look what you just did, You’ve written now two stories, plus. A couple of lists, really. Fantastic.
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I am going to be conscious of the time.
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Keep us moving.
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So suddenly, I hope what’s happening for you, is some of that noise is starting to go away, and maybe you’re beginning to be a little less careful as you write your story.
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Ray Bradbury says.
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There is only one type of story in the world.
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Your story. He’s absolutely right.
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Another writer, I love, Natalie Goldberg, who’s written, writing down the Bones and all sorts of terrific book, says, that, by writing, we recover the distance that we have traveled away from our authentic self.
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And she’s right.
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So now that you have this wood jaw tool to uncover your voice through your stories, you are now recovering that distance, right. You’re getting back to closer to your authentic self.
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Nothing’s better than that.
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So, we’re actually still in Step one, right? We’re drawing it out. We got a couple more steps I want to show you, so I’m gonna get right to it.
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OK, I’m going to jump into step two, which is called.
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I like to call mine, the gems.
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This photograph is of a vase that my best friend recently decorated with the costume jewelery of her mother so that she could have her mother close by her. So I just loved that shot.
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So, mining. The gems is so much fun. There’s always a gem. There are always multiple gems in our writing always.
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Why do I call them, gems? When I think of a jam, I think of something that’s a little extra sparkly, a little bit special precious. It catches the light in a certain way.
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So, what I want you to do is grab that highlighter that I asked you to have nearby.
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I’m gonna give you one minute, and what I want you to do in that one minute is to reread your two stories, the profound interference, and facing fear.
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And I want you to take that highlighter and just highlight what feels like a gym too. Might be a single word. Couple of phrases, media, whole sentence and I want you to strive for four gems. Maybe it’s two per piece. Maybe it’s 3 and 1, maybe they’re all in one piece, it doesn’t matter. You are going to find these sparkly moments.
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It can be as simple as, I was so angry or he was the insecure one.
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Or, you know, I did what I wanted to do, Right? Whatever it is, it’s going to feel a little extra special. You’re going to feel like, there’s a little energy there, there’s something there, and you you find yourself highlighting.
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All right, so we’re mining the gems from those two stories, one minute, get that highlighter going, Here we go. again.
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NaN.
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Yes.
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NaN, keep reading, Keep looking. Can mine a couple more gems.
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OK.
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That’s seconds.
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All right, let’s put that highlighter down. Fantastic, everybody.
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So, just opened up one of my old journals here and I’ll hold it up for minutes. You can see, you know, this is a process that I’ve worked with over and over, right. It’s right in mind, right mind, right mind, Constantly letting that highlighter go and bring our, I feel somehow, you know, a little more special, little sparkly. OK, so, that’s step two.
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First, with jot out.
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Second, we mined the gems, and now I’m going to bring you to Step three.
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Here it is.
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I call this step explore a gem.
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Exploring a gem is going deeper into the well, it’s pulling up a little more water than we pulled up with that first. We’re drawing it out.
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So, here’s what I want you to do.
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New page, getting into these good habits the day job, I will definitely let you abbreviate at this time, W J W and what I want you to do without overthinking. It is grab one of those four gems that you just highlighted doesn’t matter From either piece of writing and you’re gonna write that GMO exactly as you wrote it.
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The first time in your …
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are at the top of a new page, right?
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So just pick one, I promise you, it will be magical because it’s a gem, great because it came from that first writing It’s going to work. It just does, it always works, OK.
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So gravier, grab your gem.
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I think I’m gonna go with a line that a boss told me lunch, which was, go back to your department.
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There’s a longer story there, of course, but the line that made me quite upset at the time, go back to your department. OK? So I think I’m gonna write that at the top of the page as my jam.
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And I’m going to write on that.
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This one is just three minutes, right, but it’s the same approach. So, what we’re doing Here, we’re starting again, we’re starting a new from our own prompt that comes from one of our … writings, OK? So three minutes, whatever comes up comes up with, jot out, free to write the worst checking all the world, right? What needs to be written? There’s no Right, Right, right. Where you are? If you go off topic, that is absolutely fine, because that’s what needed to be written today. All of this is driving toward your stories, which drives at your authenticity. So just trust it.
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Yup, OK, so Step three, Explore gem right at the top of the page, the exact line that you are going to write from three minutes. Here we go. Keep that pen moving. That is absolutely critical no matter what, even if you find yourself scribbling, you keep that pen moving.
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So with me, there we go.
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All right, let’s go.
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Begin.
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two minutes, Keep digging deeper into that. Well.
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What happened? Tell this story? How did you feel?
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OK?
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one minute. Keep that panel. Then you’ve got this.
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NaN.
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15?
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Let’s bring the sentence or the thought you are on now, to a close.
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For now, you can always return to this prompt at another time.
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All right, so pen sounds shake it out.
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Fantastic.
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You follow the process. You’ve had an experience today of where your authentic voice comes from and how to access it. If you’ve stuck with me to this point, you have in front of you and your notebook and your pad of paper, a little piece of your authentic voice, it’s right there.
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You took each one of those gems that you had highlighted today and you started a new day after day or even weekly.
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You would continue to discover and stand in your authentic voice. And I’m sure some of you are thinking, Wait a minute. Can you … from a jam from a Jam, and the answer to that is absolutely Yes, right?
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So, from this most recent piece of writing, you could find another job, Jan, put that at the top of new page and begin again, And each time you are digging more deeply into that well, you’re continuing to find your stories, and the way you’re doing that is by withdrawing it out is, by giving yourself that permission.
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That magic magical permission to write the worst junk in all the world.
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Remember, I was teaching, an 18 year old one time, and she came into class one day and said, mister, what’s I think you also, you always say we’re supposed to do, we’re gonna write **** today. So, that’s how you know. It landed in her mind, which always cracks me up. But the worst junk in, all the world got permission to do, that, it’s everything. I hope you’ll remember that.
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And, here’s the truth about this. Kind of writing. You might find, at some point in your life that you want to share some of what you’re writing. Especially if you go through this process with people you live with, or with people you work with.
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In any case, you can keep going with these tools, because what you’re doing is you’re telling yourself first on the page, and then to the world.
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If you choose to share, and you absolutely don’t have to, you’ll get all the benefits of John by not sharing, But if you were to share your, you’re also saying to the world, I want you to know who I am. This is my true. This is my story.
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This is why I think the way I do, this is how I moved through this world.
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These are the experiences that inform my values, my competencies, here, my steppingstones, here are my crucible moments, so it’s one of you out there.
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Leaves this session using these tools to reveal.
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Get to know and stand in your authentic voice. I am absurdly happy.
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And I hope in this most recent three minute exercise, explore a gem. You were prompted to ask yourself, what else is there to explore?
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What else in those other gems do I want to continue to explore if you can approach this process with pure curiosity for your authentic voice? That’s a beautiful thing.
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So we’ve achieved two really important objectives today. We began the process of uncovering the personal stories are authenticity is derived from, and we engaged in authentic voice exercises to keep that voice front and center.
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Again, the great news is your authentic voice is already present. It’s waiting for you personally, professionally. You only have to unearth it with the tools that I’ve shared with you today, and you can do that work anytime at home.
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In the workplace, right, These are short exercises.
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When you leave this session today, I hope I think something’s probably going to provoke you, that usually happens at work, right?
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So, I want to encourage you to stop and turn to these tools, which I doubt mine A jam explore The jam more deeply.
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Lots of anecdotes.
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I could tell you about people I’ve worked with, who has.
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He felt so much better, more confident, have understood their own perfectionism, or their own feelings of diminishment or whatnot because they’ve chosen chosen to write, about how they’re feeling in the workplace.
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We’re short on time, so I’m gonna keep moving here. This is one of my favorite quotes here. What a great way to end this is by Natalie Goldberg. She says, Great, what disturbs? You write what you fear, what you have not been willing to speak about. Be willing to be split open.
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If you are not afraid of the voices inside you, you will not fear the critics outside you.
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So if you think back to that person, I asked you to consider the very top of the hour, the most authentic person you know, I would be willing to bet that they are not afraid of the voices inside of them. They know their stories.
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And that’s why they stand and hold their authentic voice.
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So you have these tools now, they are yours, if you would love to keep working, working with them, Feel free to reach out on my website. There it is, authentic voice now dot com, and you’ll see a button just for you, cold HRD, to you follow up. And that’s going to take you to a couple of questions to answer and a link to sign up to top chat with me for about 10 minutes. And to thank you for joining … and Sarah as a thank you to the Q, I’d love to offer this code AV for HR DQ you to offer you 15% off of my services. Everything I do is custom, whether that’s individual coaching, working with team, at work, a group of individuals, It’s all questions, I’d love to hear from you if you’d like to continue with the tools, but what’s most important is that you keep going, keep working with the tools, keep with drawing it out. I’m so sorry.
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Sorry, it looks like I didn’t have time for the Q&A, but I know you’ve gathered the questions, and I’m absolutely happy to answer those. And shoot those out in writing. Do want to jump in.
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Yes. So if you do have questions, you can type them into the questions box, and we’ll get back to you via e-mail with your response. Thank you so much for such an insightful webinar workshop today, Jennifer.
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Oh, thank you Sarah. It’s an absolute pleasure, and I think I’m starting to see a couple of questions come in here, so I’ll absolutely.
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take a look at those and shoot up. You know she, those answers out just as soon as we’re done here. I want to thank everybody for coming. I know a rate at 12 o’clock and LA time any case in any case. So, again, your authentic voice, its present, is waiting here, You’ve got it, you just need to unearth it. You’ve got the tools keep using them, keep drawing it out, and thanks, everybody.
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Yes, thank you all for participating in today’s webinar. I look forward to seeing you all next week, and our session that we have up, until he happy training, everyone.