1. What Is Holding You Back?
I’d like you to first ask yourself, “What is really stopping me from doing the thing I would do if I had no fear?”
What you will find is that, often, it’s our own mindset or our own way of thinking that is holding us back. It’s the things we tell ourselves are true about what we can do and about how the world is, which can also be called limiting beliefs.
A limiting belief is a state of mind or belief about yourself that restricts you in some way. These beliefs are often false accusations you make about yourself that can cause a number of negative results.
Self-talk is so important – what we say to ourselves determines our actions in our lives, our moods, etc. You will likely know you have a limiting belief based on your self-talk and the things and stories you tell yourself internally, such as:
- “I can’t do this.”
- “People will judge me, and I won’t be good enough. I’ll be found out.”
- “It’s not safe for me to speak up or do that thing.”
- “People don’t value me.”
This results in anxiety because we have already told ourselves we are going to fail before we have even attempted it. We have already conditioned our subconscious minds with the result that we “can’t do this.” This is damaging, and we’re not being kind to ourselves.
Limiting beliefs restrict us from achieving desired results – how you condition your mind is everything; it determines the end result.
I’ve found it useful to write down how these limiting beliefs impacts a fundamental area of your life, such as your relationships, health, finances, your own growth as a person, etc. Let’s take the area of relationships – how is that thing that is stopping you impacting the relationship with yourself, your spouse, your kids, your manager, your colleagues at work, and your friends? Ask yourself this question.
2. What’s Your BIG WHY?
It’s so hard to be motivated to work hard every day if you don’t have a good reason to, isn’t it? You need something that inspires you, gets you moving each morning, and keeps you going during tough times. That’s your “BIG WHY” – the motivation behind everything you do. So, how do you find it? It can be tricky, but with a little digging and soul-searching, you’ll begin to find out what makes you tick and what living life with purpose looks like for you!
Your BIG WHY is your purpose for why you do what you do. When you reach milestones, your BIG WHY keeps you focused and pushing to go even further, to become the best version of yourself! It’s also why you keep going even when you want to give up. It can be people, places, or things. It’s what matters most to you!
3. Your Core Values/Getting More of What Matters Most to You
To become clearer on your BIG WHY and what this means for you, I’ll now just share some questions to get you moving:
- What is the difference you want to make in the world?
- What would you do with your days if you already had millions in the bank?
- What is the biggest change you’d like to see on the planet?
- What legacy would you like to leave for future generations?
- What do you believe is the purpose of life or your purpose on the planet?
I recommend you take a piece of paper and write down your thoughts on the questions I shared. Your answers will reveal more about your core values, what really matters to you, and what you need most in your life.
A large part of what Serena and I do is help clients get rid of the root cause of anxiety. We then support them to turn inwards and identify with who they are and how to get the life they want and love.
The Blocker to Success: Imposter Syndrome
Getting more of what we need to feel happy, valued, and fulfilled in our lives is often blocked by feelings of what is called impostor syndrome. Imposter syndrome is the condition of feeling anxious and not experiencing success internally, despite being high-performing in external, objective ways. This condition often results in people feeling like “a fraud” or “a phony” and doubting their abilities.
As you can imagine, limiting beliefs and negative self-talk often lead to feelings of worry, feeling scared, and not feeling good enough. You might have imposter syndrome if you find yourself consistently experiencing self-doubt, even in areas where you typically excel. Imposter syndrome may feel like restlessness and nervousness, and it may manifest as talking negatively to yourself.
Imposter syndrome is an issue faced by so many of us at various points in our lives, and this particularly includes celebrities, believe it or not.
Think about it like this: if celebrities such as Michael Jackson or Quincy Jones were worried about what the public thought about the songs they were creating in the studio, what a poorer life would we be living without such universal, phenomenal, and transformational music!
The trick is that they believed in themselves. They allowed their passion to soar through any self-doubt in what they were creating together, and they achieved GLOBAL SUCCESS!
If you’re fed up with that same thing stopping you from moving forward in your career and life and need some help, just email or click below to book your free clarity call. I’d love to chat about where you are and what you need to do to get to where you need to go fast!
Email: steveandserena@expressingyourauthenticself.com
Calendar: https://calendly.com/expressing-your-authentic-self/clarity-up-call
