Stop Trying To Be Me

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I have been very appreciative of the project management programs I’ve been working on. Over the years, I have received a lot of support in preparing these programs. It takes a lot of effort to ensure that the program is perfect for the audience. While it’s impossible to please everyone, I feel responsible for delivering the best possible management program in the classroom. Like most management programs, having someone else assist me during delivery is very helpful.

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Recently, a friend of mine was helping with the program, which was not unusual. However, towards the end of the program, I noticed that she was incorporating her own materials without consulting me. I was taken aback. While I didn’t confront her at the time because we were almost done, I was genuinely upset. In fact, I’m still upset about it.

In my view of the learning environment, there is a hierarchy. I am the leader in my management programs, and there are one or two individuals who provide support while I am teaching. This setup prevents boredom and allows participants to interact with each other. While some people may be initially hesitant to engage, they usually end up making connections because of this setup.

As a result of this friend sharing her own materials, I distanced myself from this person and have not worked with her again. It’s easier for me to pretend that it never happened. A good person would have addressed the issue, but I didn’t do that in this situation. I’m not sure if I will ever be close friends with her again. I can come up with many reasons in my head for why she combined her materials with mine, and it’s possible that she thought it would be helpful. However, I know that our relationship will never be the same.

Looking at the bigger picture, my immediate anger and subsequent behavior could have been resolved at the beginning. Both of us lost in this situation, but I was the only one who could have prevented it. I’m still upset about it and holding onto it, which is childish. We all have our own perspectives, and the way we perceive the world can be very different from how others do. Most likely, our conversations got misunderstood.

We have the ability to navigate through uncomfortable situations. We always have the choice to respond with anger or with understanding. I’m still working on this, but it’s important that I do. Watch my webinar, Stop Trying To Be Me: Live YOUR Own Life, as I talk about how we can become more self-aware and understanding of your strengths and weaknesses so you can alk away with a clear roadmap for living YOUR own life on YOUR own terms.

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Lou Russell

Lou Russell is the Founder and CEO of Russell Martin & Associates. As an executive consultant, speaker, and author Lou is passionate about growing companies by growing their people.

She is the author of The Accelerated Learning FieldbookProject Management for TrainersTraining TriageIT Leadership AlchemyLeadership Training, 10 Steps to Successful Project Management, and Managing Projects.

Through speaking, training, and writing, Lou draws on 30 years of helping organizations achieve their full potential. She inspires improvement in leadership, project management, and individual growth.

Lou’s upbeat style and humorous stories about on-the-ground experiences will give you the passion and tools to improve the bottom line. You will be moving, laughing, participating, inspired, and challenged. Most importantly to Lou, you will learn.

Check out her training resource at HRDQstore: Rocket: The Project Management Game

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